I know I’m a day late, but in keeping with the spooky season, I thought I should talk about things that scare us. I’m not necessarily talking about huge phobias or things like that- I’m talking about the fears we have that cause less severe anxiety, choice paralysis, contribute to avoidance, are irrational, and keep … Continue reading Follow the Fear
Category: Self-Care
Stop Censoring Yourself
Many individuals with ADHD experience rejection sensitive dysphoria, or RSD. If you are unfamiliar, RSD is when you experience intense emotional pain due to feelings of rejection or failure. Because of the severity of the emotional pain, it can lead individuals to start censoring themselves in order to avoid the possible rejection entirely. What does … Continue reading Stop Censoring Yourself
Negative Self-Talk
I want to preface this blog post to say that I understand that everything that I am about to talk about is way easier said than done. Trying is what matters here, not perfection. So many people that I talk to engage in negative self-talk. This can take the form of talking badly about yourself, … Continue reading Negative Self-Talk
Self-Advocacy
This week I want to talk about something that intimidates many people both with and without ADHD: self-advocacy. Confrontation is intimidating for a lot of people. Even just speaking up can be a challenge. It requires you to tackle boundaries and people pleasing tendencies. Self-Advocacy is as hard as it is important. You might be … Continue reading Self-Advocacy
Talk to Yourself How You Would Talk to a Friend
A lot of times individuals with ADHD, and even individuals who don’t have ADHD, can engage in very negative self-talk. With ADHD some of that negative self-talk can be about symptom frustration, or due to rejection sensitivity dysphoria. There’s a lot of different things we can do to help stop this negative self-talk. One technique … Continue reading Talk to Yourself How You Would Talk to a Friend
Identity
Our identities are complex and made up of many different facets of our lives. It’s an incredibly broad topic, talking about our identities. I just want to focus on how ADHD plays into identity. How it impacts it, plays a part, influences it- to whatever degree it is a factor, let’s talk about it. This … Continue reading Identity
People Pleasing
A lot of people with ADHD are people pleasers. It’s hard saying no to people, and you just want everyone to be happy. While that is all very kind, considerate, and thoughtful, sometimes it can cause the stress and anxiety for the individual trying to please everyone. What about pleasing yourself? How can you recognize … Continue reading People Pleasing
Your Best
We’ve all heard it and have said it. Just do your best. I’m doing my best. I tried my best. Let’s talk about our best. Our best is a personal thing. It can’t be compared to the best of someone else. It also changes every day. It’s not set in stone. Our best one day … Continue reading Your Best
It’s okay to take a vacation
Summer is very much here, and the world is starting to open back up. Things from going to a restaurant to flying on a plane are becoming safer and many of us are wanting to finally get out of our homes and go anywhere! Though sometimes there is guilt and hesitation with taking a vacation. … Continue reading It’s okay to take a vacation
Rewards
I’ve talked to people that think it’s silly to motivate yourself with rewards. Personally, I don’t see what’s wrong with it. Rewarding yourself can be great! Rewards can be anything, get creative! You can reward yourself for doing something you haven’t been wanting to do with something you’ve been wanting to do. Rewards can be … Continue reading Rewards