Cleaning. It always has to happen. Even when you do it once, you just have to do it again. And again. And again. It’s a never-ending cycle. Knowing that even if you do it once, you’ll just have to do it again can be extremely unmotivating. Is cleaning hard for you? What makes it hard? … Continue reading Cleaning
There’s a lot of negative assumptions out there about ADHD/ADD. I think people get bogged down on the fact that it’s a lifelong condition, can require drugs, has a name that’s so long that it’s abbreviated, and is misunderstood. We can get so focused or down on ourselves about what problems getting an ADHD Diagnosis … Continue reading Focus on the Positives
All week I couldn’t decide what to write about this week and ended up not writing anything until Thursday afternoon. My inability to decide led to almost a week of inaction. The indecision led to feelings of being stuck and I started to tell myself that it was writers block. Now that I had writers … Continue reading Choice Paralysis
Making positive changes in our lives is going to involve some experimentation. We will have to try new things. I know, it’s terrifying, and the unfamiliar is uncomfortable. It can be especially uncomfortable if you have ADHD and need the instant gratification of success and perfection. We might be telling ourselves, “Change takes time and … Continue reading Allowing Yourself to Fail can be Liberating
Sometimes I wonder if what makes committing to and sticking to a routine, schedule, or system- something it seems most people with ADHD are seeking- is putting this label on the collection of tasks that need to happen. It frequently feels like we are searching for this holy grail schedule, routine, or system that we … Continue reading Possible Pressures Labeling a ‘Routine’ ‘System’ or ‘Schedule’
Happy New Year, everybody! Are you making any New Year’s Resolutions? That question, which people seem to ask every year, can be such an overwhelming and personal question. It’s not always easy to answer. The person asking the question is basically asking you if you’re making any goals this year. A lot of times people … Continue reading New Year’s Resolutions
Is it just me, or is having a fairly light workload or small to-do list almost as hard as having an overflowing workload or long to-do list? When there isn’t as much to do, there’s so much more time to do it, so it’s easy to fall into the “I can do it later” trap … Continue reading The Challenges of a Light Workload
Over and over again I have people telling me that if a project doesn’t have a deadline, it doesn’t get done. My personal bias to this is that this scenario makes no sense. Why would a company or school ask you to do something in the first place when they don’t have a deadline to … Continue reading No deadline? No finish.
I was going to use the Thanksgiving Holiday as an excuse to not write a blog this week. “It’s a holiday! I shouldn’t have to do work on a holiday! That’s one of the reasons it’s great to be your own boss!” Then I thought about it some more. Was I really not wanting to … Continue reading Excuses, Excuses.
I hear something like this from my clients, family, and friends over and over again, “I should be able to do this on my own automatically. I don’t want to rely on an external motivator or tool or reward…” It makes me wonder… is there really anything wrong with having some sort of external source … Continue reading Using External Motivators and Tools