This week I want to talk about something that intimidates many people both with and without ADHD: self-advocacy. Confrontation is intimidating for a lot of people. Even just speaking up can be a challenge. It requires you to tackle boundaries and people pleasing tendencies. Self-Advocacy is as hard as it is important. You might be … Continue reading Self-Advocacy
Category: Motivation
Benefits of the Bad Habits
We all have bad habits. There are things we should be doing instead of the things we are doing. We know what we’re doing isn’t good, but we can’t stop doing it. What’s up with that? We’re smart enough to be aware of what would be better for us to do, but we don’t always … Continue reading Benefits of the Bad Habits
What do I need today?
Some days, even when you have all your systems in place, your ducks in a row, your long-term and short-term goals organized, it can all still feel overwhelming. Maybe you need a self-care day, a moment to recharge, or some degree of a break when you’ve reached this overwhelm overload. When it all feels like … Continue reading What do I need today?
Being Told What to Do
There’s just something about being told what to do. Especially if it was something you were going to do, or were just about to do, without being prompted or reminded. It can give the task you were about to do a sudden… unwanted or undesirable quality to it. How do you like it when people … Continue reading Being Told What to Do
The Miracle Question
Many in the mental health and wellness industry are familiar with this question, and you may have been asked it from time to time. In case you haven’t, I’ll ask it now. Think about a problem (or group of problems) that has been plaguing you. No matter what you’ve tried so far, the problem(s) persist. … Continue reading The Miracle Question
Not Every Hobby has to be Monetized
This is a more specific example of ‘all or nothing’ thinking. We all have things we love to do for fun. Sometimes we have the need to try and make money off our fun hobby. Perhaps it’s the influence of society and everything needing to be a ‘side hustle’. Perhaps there are feelings of guilt … Continue reading Not Every Hobby has to be Monetized
People Pleasing
A lot of people with ADHD are people pleasers. It’s hard saying no to people, and you just want everyone to be happy. While that is all very kind, considerate, and thoughtful, sometimes it can cause the stress and anxiety for the individual trying to please everyone. What about pleasing yourself? How can you recognize … Continue reading People Pleasing
Your Best
We’ve all heard it and have said it. Just do your best. I’m doing my best. I tried my best. Let’s talk about our best. Our best is a personal thing. It can’t be compared to the best of someone else. It also changes every day. It’s not set in stone. Our best one day … Continue reading Your Best
Work Smarter, Not Harder
Some the superpowers of ADHD are being able to come up with creative solutions to problems and think outside the box. This can be used to your advantage when coming up with ways to work smarter, not harder. You don’t necessarily have to spend hours toiling on a project if you can think of a … Continue reading Work Smarter, Not Harder
Sustainability
I get asked all the time what the secret system for people with ADHD is to get organized, manage their time, keep to a schedule, stay motivated- like there’s some blanket system that will work for everyone. I’m sorry to say that that is not the case. Everyone is different. Not a very groundbreaking statement, … Continue reading Sustainability