I want to talk about being lazy. So many people are afraid of being accused of being lazy or feel guilt when they think their actions could be perceived as being lazy. It’s largely considered a negative trait in society today. But what even is it? When is someone actually being lazy? We may think … Continue reading What Even is “Lazy”?
I want to preface this blog post to say that I understand that everything that I am about to talk about is way easier said than done. Trying is what matters here, not perfection. So many people that I talk to engage in negative self-talk. This can take the form of talking badly about yourself, … Continue reading Negative Self-Talk
A lot of people tell me that they often do not feel productive enough. I am guilty of feeling this way myself. Even when working on something already, a feeling can arise that tells you that you aren’t working hard enough or efficiently enough. When will enough be enough? Often times people are conditioned to … Continue reading Not Enough
This week I want to talk about something that intimidates many people both with and without ADHD: self-advocacy. Confrontation is intimidating for a lot of people. Even just speaking up can be a challenge. It requires you to tackle boundaries and people pleasing tendencies. Self-Advocacy is as hard as it is important. You might be … Continue reading Self-Advocacy
We all have bad habits. There are things we should be doing instead of the things we are doing. We know what we’re doing isn’t good, but we can’t stop doing it. What’s up with that? We’re smart enough to be aware of what would be better for us to do, but we don’t always … Continue reading Benefits of the Bad Habits
Some days, even when you have all your systems in place, your ducks in a row, your long-term and short-term goals organized, it can all still feel overwhelming. Maybe you need a self-care day, a moment to recharge, or some degree of a break when you’ve reached this overwhelm overload. When it all feels like … Continue reading What do I need today?
There’s just something about being told what to do. Especially if it was something you were going to do, or were just about to do, without being prompted or reminded. It can give the task you were about to do a sudden… unwanted or undesirable quality to it. How do you like it when people … Continue reading Being Told What to Do
Many in the mental health and wellness industry are familiar with this question, and you may have been asked it from time to time. In case you haven’t, I’ll ask it now. Think about a problem (or group of problems) that has been plaguing you. No matter what you’ve tried so far, the problem(s) persist. … Continue reading The Miracle Question
This is a more specific example of ‘all or nothing’ thinking. We all have things we love to do for fun. Sometimes we have the need to try and make money off our fun hobby. Perhaps it’s the influence of society and everything needing to be a ‘side hustle’. Perhaps there are feelings of guilt … Continue reading Not Every Hobby has to be Monetized
A lot of people with ADHD are people pleasers. It’s hard saying no to people, and you just want everyone to be happy. While that is all very kind, considerate, and thoughtful, sometimes it can cause the stress and anxiety for the individual trying to please everyone. What about pleasing yourself? How can you recognize … Continue reading People Pleasing