Sometimes it feels like things “always” go wrong or “never” go right. We can think we may “always” feel crummy, and go down a rabbit hole of feeling powerless, stuck, or doomed forever. One tactic we can use to get out of this all or nothing thinking is to look for exceptions to this rule … Continue reading Exception to the Rule
We all have bad habits. There are things we should be doing instead of the things we are doing. We know what we’re doing isn’t good, but we can’t stop doing it. What’s up with that? We’re smart enough to be aware of what would be better for us to do, but we don’t always … Continue reading Benefits of the Bad Habits
There’s just something about being told what to do. Especially if it was something you were going to do, or were just about to do, without being prompted or reminded. It can give the task you were about to do a sudden… unwanted or undesirable quality to it. How do you like it when people … Continue reading Being Told What to Do
We all have things in our lives that we’re just tolerating. Things we don’t like, things that annoy us, things that stress us out, and things that get under our skin and make us so angry we just want to scream. Sometimes these things that we’re tolerating can cause us anxiety and distress, and we … Continue reading Tolerations
We’ve all heard it and have said it. Just do your best. I’m doing my best. I tried my best. Let’s talk about our best. Our best is a personal thing. It can’t be compared to the best of someone else. It also changes every day. It’s not set in stone. Our best one day … Continue reading Your Best
Sometimes we unknowingly limit ourselves by living by unwritten rules. These rules at one point or another probably served some purpose, and we may not even know we are living by them anymore because they are so ingrained in our day-to-day lives. Now, we do live in a society, and society has its own unwritten … Continue reading Unwritten Rules
You never know when inspiration is going to strike. It’s not always at a convenient time and doesn’t always care about your schedule. The inspiration- or impulse- can be about anything. So, how do we know when to stick to the schedule, or fallow the inspirational impulse? What’s it like to get an impulse to … Continue reading When to follow the impulse
Making positive changes in our lives is going to involve some experimentation. We will have to try new things. I know, it’s terrifying, and the unfamiliar is uncomfortable. It can be especially uncomfortable if you have ADHD and need the instant gratification of success and perfection. We might be telling ourselves, “Change takes time and … Continue reading Allowing Yourself to Fail can be Liberating
At one point or another, every single client asks me to tell them what to do or give them the answer. I then have to give them the unfortunate news that I am a mere mortal and don’t have all the answers. I wish I did. That would make things so much easier. As an … Continue reading Tell Me What To Do!
Over and over again I have people telling me that if a project doesn’t have a deadline, it doesn’t get done. My personal bias to this is that this scenario makes no sense. Why would a company or school ask you to do something in the first place when they don’t have a deadline to … Continue reading No deadline? No finish.