I know I’m a day late, but in keeping with the spooky season, I thought I should talk about things that scare us. I’m not necessarily talking about huge phobias or things like that- I’m talking about the fears we have that cause less severe anxiety, choice paralysis, contribute to avoidance, are irrational, and keep … Continue reading Follow the Fear
Category: Excuses
Stop Censoring Yourself
Many individuals with ADHD experience rejection sensitive dysphoria, or RSD. If you are unfamiliar, RSD is when you experience intense emotional pain due to feelings of rejection or failure. Because of the severity of the emotional pain, it can lead individuals to start censoring themselves in order to avoid the possible rejection entirely. What does … Continue reading Stop Censoring Yourself
What Even is “Lazy”?
I want to talk about being lazy. So many people are afraid of being accused of being lazy or feel guilt when they think their actions could be perceived as being lazy. It’s largely considered a negative trait in society today. But what even is it? When is someone actually being lazy? We may think … Continue reading What Even is “Lazy”?
Negative Self-Talk
I want to preface this blog post to say that I understand that everything that I am about to talk about is way easier said than done. Trying is what matters here, not perfection. So many people that I talk to engage in negative self-talk. This can take the form of talking badly about yourself, … Continue reading Negative Self-Talk
Not Enough
A lot of people tell me that they often do not feel productive enough. I am guilty of feeling this way myself. Even when working on something already, a feeling can arise that tells you that you aren’t working hard enough or efficiently enough. When will enough be enough? Often times people are conditioned to … Continue reading Not Enough
Exception to the Rule
Sometimes it feels like things “always” go wrong or “never” go right. We can think we may “always” feel crummy, and go down a rabbit hole of feeling powerless, stuck, or doomed forever. One tactic we can use to get out of this all or nothing thinking is to look for exceptions to this rule … Continue reading Exception to the Rule
Benefits of the Bad Habits
We all have bad habits. There are things we should be doing instead of the things we are doing. We know what we’re doing isn’t good, but we can’t stop doing it. What’s up with that? We’re smart enough to be aware of what would be better for us to do, but we don’t always … Continue reading Benefits of the Bad Habits
Being Told What to Do
There’s just something about being told what to do. Especially if it was something you were going to do, or were just about to do, without being prompted or reminded. It can give the task you were about to do a sudden… unwanted or undesirable quality to it. How do you like it when people … Continue reading Being Told What to Do
Tolerations
We all have things in our lives that we’re just tolerating. Things we don’t like, things that annoy us, things that stress us out, and things that get under our skin and make us so angry we just want to scream. Sometimes these things that we’re tolerating can cause us anxiety and distress, and we … Continue reading Tolerations
Your Best
We’ve all heard it and have said it. Just do your best. I’m doing my best. I tried my best. Let’s talk about our best. Our best is a personal thing. It can’t be compared to the best of someone else. It also changes every day. It’s not set in stone. Our best one day … Continue reading Your Best