Sometimes it feels like things “always” go wrong or “never” go right. We can think we may “always” feel crummy, and go down a rabbit hole of feeling powerless, stuck, or doomed forever. One tactic we can use to get out of this all or nothing thinking is to look for exceptions to this rule … Continue reading Exception to the Rule
Author: Maddy Buxton
Overwhelm
All too often when I meet with clients and ask how they’re doing, one of the first things they say is, “I feel overwhelmed.” If you get overwhelmed frequently, you are not alone. Being overwhelmed is exhausting, and when we get overwhelmed it’s so easy to stay overwhelmed since thoughts and feelings tend to snowball … Continue reading Overwhelm
Self-Advocacy
This week I want to talk about something that intimidates many people both with and without ADHD: self-advocacy. Confrontation is intimidating for a lot of people. Even just speaking up can be a challenge. It requires you to tackle boundaries and people pleasing tendencies. Self-Advocacy is as hard as it is important. You might be … Continue reading Self-Advocacy
Environment
This week I would like to talk about how our environments can contribute to ADHD symptoms. Sometimes changing things in our environment can help mitigate ADHD symptoms. When I say environment, I don’t necessarily mean our ecosystems on a grand scale, I mean more of our home environments, work environments, school environments- places that you … Continue reading Environment
Talk to Yourself How You Would Talk to a Friend
A lot of times individuals with ADHD, and even individuals who don’t have ADHD, can engage in very negative self-talk. With ADHD some of that negative self-talk can be about symptom frustration, or due to rejection sensitivity dysphoria. There’s a lot of different things we can do to help stop this negative self-talk. One technique … Continue reading Talk to Yourself How You Would Talk to a Friend
Benefits of the Bad Habits
We all have bad habits. There are things we should be doing instead of the things we are doing. We know what we’re doing isn’t good, but we can’t stop doing it. What’s up with that? We’re smart enough to be aware of what would be better for us to do, but we don’t always … Continue reading Benefits of the Bad Habits
Managing Ambiguity
It’s quite frustrating when we put so much time and energy into developing a system, routine, and/or schedule and then life comes and throws a wrench in everything. How can we take the time to figure out a system that works for us when everything around us is constantly changing and feels nebulous and ambiguous? … Continue reading Managing Ambiguity
Pacing
I want to check in with you all about how we pace ourselves. I’ve talked about time blindness before, and I think our pace that we do things can also suffer from time blindness. Maybe it’s speed blindness would be a better term to use when checking in on our pacing of tasks on our … Continue reading Pacing
What do I need today?
Some days, even when you have all your systems in place, your ducks in a row, your long-term and short-term goals organized, it can all still feel overwhelming. Maybe you need a self-care day, a moment to recharge, or some degree of a break when you’ve reached this overwhelm overload. When it all feels like … Continue reading What do I need today?
Being Told What to Do
There’s just something about being told what to do. Especially if it was something you were going to do, or were just about to do, without being prompted or reminded. It can give the task you were about to do a sudden… unwanted or undesirable quality to it. How do you like it when people … Continue reading Being Told What to Do