I don’t know why it is so hard to ask for help sometimes. Maybe we don’t always realize when we need help. Maybe it’s pride. Maybe we don’t think we are allowed to ask for help. Maybe we think there’s no one that can help. Maybe it’s a belief that asking for help is weak. Maybe we just don’t know how to ask.
In what area(s) of your life do you need help? If you aren’t sure, what area(s) in your life are you struggling with? What could be easier, and how could it be easier?
What kind of help do you need? How could you get it?
What actions would be the most helpful?
Are there any needs that aren’t being met?
What does asking for help look like? Sound like? Feel like?
Who could you ask for help? What’s keeping you from asking them? How will you know if they can or cannot help unless you ask?
What would it mean to ask for help? What are you telling yourself about ‘getting help’? How rational is what you’re telling yourself?
If a friend or loved one was struggling with the same problem, would you want to know? Would you, could you, or would you want to help?
How much help are you comfortable asking for?
What would it be like getting the help you need?
What does your support system look like? Who is in it? Who do you want in it? How could you add them to it?
What is it costing you now not having the help you need?
How much longer can you sustain not having help? What’s the straw that will break the camel’s back? When will you know it is time to ask for help?
What’s the difference between doing this alone versus doing this with help?
It is not weak to ask for help. There is strength in being honest and vulnerable. And who knows, if you ask for help, you may just get it. Life could become easier after saying three little words to a trusted individual: I need help.
